The need for Hope

birds-800671_1280My favorite poem about Hope is from Emily Dickinson.  I recall my mom reciting the opening line, and then realizing later that I loved the whole poem.  Here it is

“Hope” is the thing with feathers – 
That perches in the soul – 
And sings the tune without the words – 
And never stops – at all – 
And sweetest – in the Gale – is heard – 
And sore must be the storm – 
That could abash the little Bird 
That kept so many warm – 
I’ve heard it in the chillest land – 
And on the strangest Sea – 
Yet – never – in Extremity, 
It asked a crumb – of me.

It has been said that Dickinson’s poetry has a similar style as the psalms and other religious hymns – perhaps that’s why I connect with her writing style.  It’s flow appeals to me, and her metaphor here speaks to me visually.

Hope in it’s simplest form is a bit shallow.

“I hope it rains tomorrow.”

“I hope my daughter buckles her seatbelt.”

“I hope you feel better.”

But if we dig a little deeper, hope can add an element of expectation.  When hope combines the idea of wanting something to happen with the idea of expectation, whether because of past results or sheer faith, Hope becomes so much more meaningful.

Today I want to encourage you with a word about Hope.

Daily life can drag us down.  Maybe you wake up like I do, with expectations of accomplishing a large number of things – my lists are long!  but somewhere after the day begins, I start to realize that I am a little too “hopeful” about how I am going to accomplish the day’s jobs – and I start to dwell in reality.  The task lists get rewritten, and I settle on a more manageable “list” for my day.

Reading the news can drag me down.  I try to get my news in small clips now – like twitter for instance.  Reading large amounts of news, hurts my spirit.  I just can’t do it.  There’s so little hope in our world, and because there is such little hope people turn to evil.  The evil is rampant and overwhelming.  I find that dwelling in the difficulties of our present our realities can bury me in discouragement and cause me to lose my focus.

Instead, I’m thankful for hope.  The deeper knowledge that there is something far greater beyond this life fuels me forward.  While there are many wonderful joys in this life, it cannot compare to the hope of our future in Glory.  We should share hope with those around us.  Not a flimsy, shallow hope though – let’s share the reason for our Hope – our expectation of a future more wonderful than we can even imagine.

The Place for Pause

I’m not sure about you but rest doesn’t always come easily for me. As a goal oriented person, I’m typically working on the next project, next job, next assignment, and the list is never ending.  I’m writing and re-writing my ideas, to-do’s and dreams, and I rarely rest.

As a matter of fact, this Saturday was the first time that I can remember since February that I sat down and watched a movie on the television.  I know it seems a bit odd, but when I was determined to finish writing my novel, my tv watching/relaxing days went out the window.

I enjoyed the break this weekend.  I needed it.  Mentally I am drained, and emotionally I’m teetering on discouraged.  I have so many ideas and dreams, but no one idea/dream is actually moving the needle forward currently, and I’m feeling a bit down.  It’s time to work out another 90 day goal, I need to write about my year long experience getting up before dawn, and I need to finish editing a novel so I can force someone to fall in love with it.  I mean, so I can pitch it with passion to an editor who will publish it.

But I am struggling.  Even trying to figure out what to blog about to encourage you my friends and readers was a challenge for me today.  So instead I just decided to be real and hopefully whatever difficulty you face today, the reality that we are all struggling to move forward maybe will be an encouragement.

My pause has become connected to one of the projects the Lord started with me this year.  My pause has ministered more to me than anything, and I just love that sometimes the Lord uses it to bless others.  In just a few days, it will be almost 6 months into this project.  I had no idea I could do this for this long, or that it would be a blessing to others.

So today I want to share a page again that maybe will bless you too – and maybe you’ll find a place to pause and to reflect on God’s goodness and provision for us.  These words encouraged me today and I hope they can encourage you also!

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If you’d like to download this page and print it out to color – just click here.

Busyness

Hey friends,

Today is not a long blog post, but just a quick note to my friends who visit here looking for a word or two of encouragement.

First, I apologize that I am not terribly regular at posting here yet.  I’ll get better, I promise.  I seem to manage to get something posted each day on the Facebook page, but I haven’t been consistent posting here.

Second, thanks for sticking with me anyway!  Without readers, then there would be no point to posting.  My goal with this blog is to definitely encourage you, and so many of us need to hear a word of encouragement in our day.  The world tries very hard to bring us down and discourage us about the difference we are making, but I want to be back here applauding your efforts and encouraging you forward.  Take the next step and don’t look back – you aren’t going that way.

I’m going to share a couple links so you know what I’ve been up to and if you are not a member of the Facebook page yet, definitely join up – you’ll be glad you did!

This week I finally completed my self imposed challenge to memorize the book of James.  I am so excited that I was able to accomplish this.  And it was most definitely the grace of God that allowed it because my brain was addled most days! here’s the link if you’d like to verify that I actually did it 🙂

Last week, I completed a project that I had worked on that should be published later this year.  It’s a contracted work for hire, and I was so excited to play a small role in it.

This month, I am helping with Beauty and the Beast, Jr. at our local community theater, DFT and teaching vocals – which is also keeping me very busy.

Lastly, I just worked on a new post about life lessons over on my other blog, if you’d like to see it – go here

I’m working on some ideas for posts here, so I’ll be back in the next few days – promise 🙂  In the meantime I pray you will each have a very lovely weekend with your families, and will find time to rest!

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If you find it hard to rest, then go here, and meditate on God’s word and color for a little downtime.  I love today’s passage – so meaningful AND encouraging!

 

When the Music stops

pablo-4I was recently talking on Facebook with a college friend.  She has had some very grave trials in her married life and she is just starting to take up her music again.  She is a talented singer, pianist and teacher.  It reminded me of a dark time in my life, when it seemed like that thing that I loved so much, music, and writing music, made no sense anymore.  My writing was dark, and not hopeful, and I stopped composing.  I stopped playing because it just felt fake.

I wonder have you been there?  Have you encountered a time maybe when your joy was less than full and the thing that you loved brought you more pain than happiness?  My musical journey has been more painful than anything, and yet it’s still something that I have invested a lot of time and energy in.  God has blessed in amazing ways but not always the way I wanted him to.

I was thrilled my friend, had enough distance from her trials to be able to feel the music again.  Whether you are in the middle of the pain, just starting or just ending a trial, there is hope.  God is our lamp in the darkness and while he doesn’t remove our pain or grief, He does promise to walk with us through the darkness, and to turn into eventually into light! (II Sam.22:29)

I hope you find encouragement here.  Tragedy doesn’t keep us sidelined forever.  God makes a way for us to make the music again.  My prayer is that you can find great comfort in these words!

Living lives filled with intention

Recently on my other blog, I wrote about the differences between good intentions and being intentional.  If you haven’t read it yet, please check it out here http://lifelessonsinmyhead.com/good-intentions-vs-intentional/

While this blog post will be similar, I promise it’s not exactly the same.  As women I find that we are often filled with incredible guilt.  This guilt comes in many forms, and sometimes I suppose can be well founded, but for me personally, the guilt I “feel” is 100% self induced and false.

  • I’m not sure what you might feel guilt about, but perhaps you have had these thoughts in the past, or have them now.
  • I’m not a good daughter, I don’t spend enough time with my family.
  • I’m not a good wife, I don’t give my husband the respect he deserves.
  • I’m not a good mother, I yelled at the kids today.
  • I’m not a good housekeeper, my mother never had a messy house.

Should I continue?  I don’t believe that God ever intended or desired us to live under such a heavy weight of guilt and shame.  Instead He desires that we live in victory and enjoy the life He’s given us.

Most days I spend time praying that God will fill in the gaps in my kids lives that I am not filling.  I pray that He gives them what they need to become remarkable adults in His kingdom work.  I pray that my husband knows that I dearly love him, and treasure my life with him, even when I forget to show him how much he means.  I pray that a magic fairy will arrive at the house overnight and clean my home so I don’t have to. Ok, ok not really, but a girl can dream right?

I pray that you will understand that this false guilt of should haves and should do’s  is the enemy working to keep you defeated.  Being intentional in this arena of thought, means getting rid of the thoughts that weigh you down mentally.  Committing every thought to the Father, and asking Him to provide your every need.  May you know His strength and purpose today!

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Don’t forget the other wonderful resource of coloring pages available to you for daily download.  If you haven’t checked it out yet, go here now! www.365fearnot.com 

 

Book Review & Giveaway!!

Oh! I am so excited to be doing a giveaway!  I received a book to read and review and post on my blog, and I never expected it to be such an encouragement to me! WOW!  So below you will see the review.  But keep reading! Because there you will see the giveaway info as well!  And a bonus!  Amy has a book club Breaking Up With Perfect that will start on August 1. Check out her website http://www.amycarroll.org to receive more info on the book club!  I’ve already signed up 🙂  You can also be added to the Facebook closed group page by clicking here

Breaking Up with Perfect by Amy Carroll

I just finished reading this book, and I am sitting here wondering how Amy crawled inside my head and wrote a story about my life.  Coming to grips with my propensity to perfection has been such a lifelong journey, and it wasn’t until after I was married I realized how very deeply entrenched my perfectionistic tendencies were.  Amy describes the Good Girl list so perfectly and I instantly identified with this idea.  What I was surprised by though, was the way she included the Never Good Enough girls.  I had never thought about this group of women in this way.  My heart has always longed to encourage and many times, the women I find myself encouraging could fall onto that list.  I had never connected the perfection problem for them as well since it’s looks different then the Good Girl list.

Her insights on friendships and dealing with conflict are needful and while I had assumed I had made such progress personally, she highlighted some needs I still have to deal with.

The added benefit of going deeper is such a nice bonus.  While my initial reading has been fairly quick, I am looking forward to going back and going deeper and using my highlighter throughout many of her pages.  Friends – if your perfectionism is keeping you from living a joy filled life, you need to take a look and consider what she has to say.

She writes not as someone who has all the answers, but someone who has been in our shoes, and still fights the battle.  She’s given it to God and she’s learned from her past mistakes and shares with us what she learned.

So here’s the deal – I have one free copy of Breaking Up with Perfect by Amy Carroll to give away to you my sweet readers and friends!

To be eligible for the giveaway I need you to do only 3 things:

#1 – like the Encouraging Women Today Facebook page here .  If you want to see what happens more regularly, you need to check the box under the like menu to see first, or to receive notifications, otherwise you might miss out on some good encouragement!

#2 – share either the link to this blog post, or the link to the Encouraging Women Today post on Twitter or Facebook or both

#3 – comment on the Facebook page that you have completed the steps. If you also want to comment here on the blog that’s wonderful too.. 🙂  All the comments help!

The winner will be chosen randomly from the people who tell me that they followed the steps!  Winner will be selected on Friday!

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Be all there

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Today, it was like the above message was on repeat!  First I found this meme while searching for good content this morning for the Facebook Page.  It reminded me of the saying to “bloom where you are planted.”  I love that one too.  I’m a visual person, and so when I see the things you are seeing as a picture, it stays with me.  So my morning started with the reminder to be all the way there wherever I was today.

This afternoon, I was doing some edits on some devotions I am writing, and happened to catch a live podcast by Brendon Burchard.  He talked about prioritization being key to not living a life out of balance.  It was really a motivating talk.  But he also mentioned one thing that stuck with me since then.  He said if he had only one hour to spend with someone that would be totally fine, as long as they were completely in the moment with him.  That would be far better than to have several hours, but not have their full attention.

So this all the way grabbed my mind..intentionally living out this message means that we need to be sure to be available to the people we care about the most.  This is a challenge for me because I am so completely GOAL driven.  As we live out our days looking to encourage and love others, we have to be all in.  Be present.  Be available.  The littles are only little for so long.  The bigs leave soon enough.  The dishes get washed eventually.  The laundry gets folded..or does it?  I’m not really sure, but I do know that in the midst of working to live intentionally to encourage others to love and care for those around them, I must also heed my words and be all there!

Be encouraged!  You are loved and cherished!  You are valuable and you are enough!

The GIFT of encouragement

Good morning!  Hope you are all having a beautiful morning!  The sunrise was really pretty here today as I thought about what it was that I needed to share with y’all today.  I wrote a post a couple months ago on the GIFT of encouragement and so instead of trying to reinvent the wheel I’m going to have you check it out over there.  I’m mulling over how the daily blog will be structured so bear with me while I work out the kinks and if you have suggestions I’d love to hear them.  My thought is that each day could apply to a certain season of life for us women.

Anyway – here’s the link to the post on encouragement – just click on “encouragement” and it will take you there.

Also another little project that may be of interest to you is a daily download coloring page regarding the “fear nots” of the Bible.  You can check it out here.  It’s been a blessing to search for the Scriptures that tell us not to fear, and to share them each day!  If you enjoy coloring, I think it’s a great way to meditate on Scripture and do something you enjoy also.  Here’s todays page – if you like it just go to the website to download. isam1224

 

Kind Words

Here’s what I envision friends – a community of women who build each other up, not tear each other down.  Finding opportunities to encourage each other in each season – reaching up to those who have travelled the path we are on already, and reaching back to bring someone along with us who isn’t where we are yet.  Arm in arm, hand in hand, not merely surviving this journey of life, but thriving!  Our words have so much power and we can do so much good, if we will be conscientious, yes intentional with them.  Look for opportunities to bless and to do good!  I hope you will connect with us not just here on the blog, but also on Facebook.  I look forward to providing content that gives you a boost whenever you need it and pray that God will use it to fulfill His purpose in each of us!  IMG_5188